Frienditis: How To Make Yourself Boyfriend Material - We show you how to avoid slipping into platonic relationships with people you actually fancy with advice given by Love Doctor Sam Van Rood in his book Teach Yourself Flirting.
Step 1: Symptoms
So how do you know if you are suffering frienditis?
Does this sound familiar...?
You have lots of female friends but no girlfriend.
And you have no chance of starting something with your female friends, as you just don't feel its right to make the first move. Sounds like you need my help to cure your frienditis!
Step 2: Revealing your potential
Relationships can live or die by the first impression you make. If you give off a friendly first impression, it may ruin your chances of being seen as a potential partner.
The key to turning your luck around is to change the way you relate to women; and to approach first encounters with new people by being funny, confident yet enigmatic.
After all, being nice is fine to charm your grandma's friends into giving you more tea and biscuits, but women of your age require a little bit more edge.
Step 3: Beef up your body language
Whether converting a friendship to a relationship, or just approaching new relationships in a different way, you need to rethink your body language. As 93% of communication is non-verbal, a more masculine body language tells potential dates that you are a good man to be with.
A good start is to become a man's man! Take up a martial art; like Krav Maga. Women love a man who can handle himself, and knowing how to disarm a knife wielding mugger, or yob with a baseball bat gives you that indefinable masculine confidence.
Also, giving off masculine body language is something you can learn. Push back your shoulders, lift your chest, stand with your feet wide apart, and make confident eye contact. Hook your thumbs in your front jean pockets, with your fingers out. This makes you look confident and shows off your assets. Women will notice the difference.
Step 4: Think Dirty
What's the difference between friends and boyfriends? To be boyfriend material you need to think dirty.
Next time you are with someone you fancy, imagine slowly undressing her. Then, think in detail about exactly what you would like to do next.
What you are thinking is reflected in your body language – your intent will start to become clear, catapulting you into the potential boyfriend zone.
Step 5: Dating good friends of the opposite gender
Dating someone you know already as a friend is difficult, as you have been placed in that friendship box, and you run the risk of losing a good friend. If you really want to convert a friendship into a relationship, proceed with great care - it's important to ascertain in the first case whether they fancy you. Do you actually have a flirtatious relationship, or is all the flirting one way?
Things to remember:-
Don't risk a friendship if they are in a happy relationship, or don't want a partner.
If you still want to declare your undying love, do it when your friend will be drinking more than you. If you are more sober than your friend then you can maintain your composure and find out the truth. Blaming a moment of indiscretion on alcohol won't lose you any face.
If they clearly don't respond to your advances, move on and try to achieve closure - there's no point in lusting after a love affair that just isn't going to happen.
Congratulations - you've learned new ways to avoid the "just good friends" trap and are ready to be a manly man in every situation!