Hugging a girl can be the first step towards greater intimacy or building a relationship. Dating expert Andy Jones outlines the steps to take and pitfalls to avoid in order to successfully hug a girl the way she wants to be hugged, build intimacy and avoid awkwardness.
I'm going to be showing you how girls like to be hugged. How you hug a girl and how you hold her are really important. Often, the first time you hug a girl is the first step to kissing her or getting into a relationship so it's really important that you do it right.
First of all, think to yourself: do I smell good, am I somebody who is huggable, would somebody want to hold me? If you think "I'm not sure if I smell good", give yourself a sniff. Honestly, it's worthwhile. Catch any odors, invest in a decent cologne, make sure you shower regularly.
These all sound ridiculous points but it's absolutely essential you get them right. If this is a girl you really care about or you'd quite like to be in a relationship with, take your time and be gentle; you're not grabbing a teammate after they scored a goal or a touchdown. No girl likes to be grabbed or roughed up or have her hair messed up or anything.
Girls take time with their appearance and they expect you to respect that. When you lean in to hug someone, place you arms lightly around their shoulders or their waist. It's not necessarily important what you do with your arms, it's more important what you do with your eyes and your face.
When you go to hug someone you really like and you're just saying goodbye to them or saying hello to them, say, if you're just saying hello to them, make eye contact with them, hold their gaze for just a second, not too long, just a couple seconds, and say "Great to see you," or "I've had lots of fun today, I've had a really good time, it's been brilliant". When you hug her, place your head against her head and just squeeze lightly. It doesn't have to be a big grip; it doesn't have to last very long.
You're just getting intimacy with her, and at least, you're in contact, you're showing her you like her. It can often feel quire awkward when you're trying to hug someone, especially if you don't do it very often. Because often if you just reach out to hug someone, I think "Why's this guy hugging me? You never know when he hugs me".
If you gently initiate touch with them often, then it will seem more natural and you can get to know that person intimately easier. For instance, if you're talking to them, maybe a light touch on their arm when you're making a point, maybe touch their wrist if you're making a really sensitive comment or you're sharing something you have a mutual interest in. If you do it often, it will feel a lot easier and people won't feel it strange if you're trying to hug them.
That was just a couple of points on how to hug a girl. Hugging a girl can be the first step towards greater intimacy or building a relationship. Dating expert Andy Jones outlines the steps to take and pitfalls to avoid in order to successfully hug a girl the way she wants to be hugged, build intimacy and avoid awkwardness.